The Real Bully
"If there is anything that we wish to change in our children, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could be better changed in ourselves." ~Carl Jung
I am so tired of the all the bullying commercials that target children. Really they are the end result of the TRUE issue! The REAL issue is bullying- I agree; but how and where do the children learn bulling???
Have you stopped to listed and observe how children are treated in today's society?
It begins with telling Parents to let they baby CRY- because "That baby is trying to control and manipulate you". And with that the bullying begins. We are told to view them as controlling, manipulative creatures.
Seriously?
Then we are told as the child enters the age of two- (daunting music plays)THE TERRIBLE TWOS- yet again we must prepare for battle. We must fight these evil little beings.
Sigh.
Parents are told to begin the bullying early. After a life time (albeit a short lifetime) of being controlled, fought with, manipulated and thought of as 'evil'. POOF you have raised yourself a BULLY!
He finally has space- and takes out all that controlled, manipulated energy, on another being. After all he has been taught that is the hierarchy.
What if- instead- we listened, facilitated, viewed with positive eyes- our Children?
"Always assume positive intent from your children. In a culture that assumes the negative, this little change of focus changes everything." Dayna Martin
IMAGINE- if you can. A world where children are honored, respected (gasp) as humans, and PART of the family (not just accessories).
"What a wonderful World" Louis Armstrong
If we really want to target bullying- Lets be peaceful, gentle parents.
